Marriage Counselling Services

It’s normal for couples to struggle with issues from time to time in their marriage, and occasionally challenges come from outside the marriage that test the relationship. To recognise a challenge or marital issue and seek help when we are struggling is a relationship strength. A good relationship counsellor can help with many issues that couples face.

Issues that commonly arise for couples include difficulty with: self-image, anger regulation, depression, sexuality and intimacy, trust, compatibility, grief and loss, family dynamics, dealing with an affair, step-families, parenting, workplace issues, finances, and conflict.

Experienced relationship counsellors can also assist with other more challenging issues as well: dealing with terminal illness; violence; abuse; and addiction.

Benefits of Marriage Counselling

Some of the benefits couples can gain from consultation with an appropriately qualified and experienced marriage counsellor include:

  • Deepening intimacy;
  • Mutual growth;
  • Developing stronger more effective communication with each other;
  • New tools and ways of reducing conflict and expressing anger in a healthy way;
  • Increasing personal confidence and strength so that it is safe to express and be authentic;
  • Finding safe ways of being vulnerable with one another and achieving a deeper connection; and
  • Identifying and building on existing strengths in the relationship.

Many couples who have strong healthy relationships can also benefit from counselling to continue growing in love and exploring and developing new aspects of their relationship.

Our counselling services are currently priced at $120 per hour. However, this can be negotiated in cases of genuine financial hardship. For more information contact us on (08) 9278 0253.

How to get the most from Marriage Counselling

Our counselling services aim to help you reach your goals as a couple and to do so in a way that does not violate your core values or deeply held principles. The major aim of counselling is increasing your knowledge about yourself, your partner and the patterns of interaction between you. Counselling becomes effective as you apply new knowledge to break ineffective patterns and develop better ones.

The key tasks of couples counselling are increasing your clarity about:

  • The kind of life you want to build together;
  • The kind of partner you aspire to be in order to build the kind of life and relationship you want to create;
  • Your individual blocks to becoming the kind of partner you aspire to be; and
  • The skills and knowledge necessary to do the above tasks.

Communication is one of the number one presenting problems in couples counselling. Good communication is much more difficult than most people want to believe. Effective negotiation is even harder. A couple’s vision emerges from a process of reflection and inquiry. It requires both people to speak from the heart about what really matters to each.

Effective communication means you need to pay attention to:

  • Managing unruly emotions, such as anger that is too intense;
  • How you are communicating – whining, blaming, being vague, etc.;
  • What you want from your partner during the discussion;
  • What the problem symbolises to you;
  • The outcome you want from the discussion;
  • Your partner’s major concerns;
  • How you can help your partner become more responsive to you; and
  • The beliefs and attitudes you have about the problem.

Prior, to coming to couples counselling you may like to reflect on some of your own personal communication processes and what could be improved.